They will assure you that they are your best friends and that you are loved. Comparing yourself to your ex's new partner, whether to wonder if they're better than you or to wonder if they're similar to you, will lead you down the wrong line of reasoning. So, call your girls up! Make sure not to react in front of others because it could get back to your ex and your friend (I mean, your ex friend). Or is my comparing them a sign that I shouldn't be with this girl? Holmes Hahn warns that if your partner is making sarcastic or degrading remarks about the person, if they find it difficult to maintain eye contact with you, or if they cry, they might not be ready for a serious commitment. If you can confide in your ex about your current relationship, perhaps that's the ultimate sign you've moved on to a friendship that's just as special. I shared things with her and trusted her. I think there is one of two reasons that you are stuck in this comparison mindset. Your ex and "your friend" are the ones who should feel stupid, NOT YOU!
The new girlfriend sounds lovely in terms of matching with your values and belief systems, etc. This Doesn't Erase What You Two Had. I hope you understand that we don't want to hurt you. Focus on your kids, your career, and your love life, if you choose. Letting her go will allow both of you to find someone with whom that chemistry just clicks. I know I'm not alone in feeling devastated over an ex moving.
However, sometimes a partner can have all the qualities we want in someone, but our pheromones dont sync. I felt like I'd been burned. Over a year after I ended one relationship, I found some photos. With the second (non) ex, I realized there was an ounce of hope lingering in me that maybe we would reunite one day, and seeing that he was no longer available crushed. It was like we were still together and he cheated. Again, thats not because there is anything wrong with her or wrong with you.